Marriage, simply put, is not supposed to be about one spouses’ happiness.  If that is the cornerstone of your marriage, it will crumble, and you’ll be headed for divorce. HWHL lies to the husband that his existence in the marriage is meant soley to make his wife happy.  The cornerstone of a healthy marriage is not your wife’s happiness, but Jesus Christ.  You cannot make the happiness of your wife your all and effectively adhere to Matt 22:37.