Christ Renews Your Marriage

If you’re reading this, now is an opportunity to pursue your spouse.  Don’t waste another minute! Do not give resentment a foothold.  Don’t believe the lie that passive aggressiveness will be the thing that “fixes” your marriage or that your spouse needs to change for change to happen in the marriage.

You want a marriage that you can treasure? Then fight for it.  Work for it!  You won’t get this priceless marriage without risk and emotional investment.  You will get hurt and your expectations will get dashed to pieces.  Your hope for a changed and a renewed marriage will be significantly challenged, as it should.  The person to fix your marriage is not you or your spouse, it is Christ. 

A renewed marriage will mean humility on your part. Your responsibility in this matter is understanding what it means to be what Jesus did on the cross and what does it look like to humbly obey him. Submitting to Christ is an admission that you are not in control.  Submitting to Christ is not weakness and it is not dismissing any marital hurt you’ve experienced, but it is rightfully putting in the driver’s seat the correct driver. 

Your hurt feelings that have created bitterness and resentment in your married life is not a good leader or guide. So, stop allowing them to guide you in important marital dynamics.  Seek the one who has and is calling to you.  Seek the one who pursues you relentlessly with unconditional love.  Christ does not hide himself.  Christ makes himself plainly known.  If you can’t see Christ, then consider how your selfish desires and sin is obstructing your view of Jesus. It is possible that you worship validation as a functional savior and not Christ as the ultimate savior.

Easter is here and with that, is a magnificent opportunity to turn from bitterness, resentment and pride and praise the one who so gloriously died for you so that you may have hope everlasting.  Your hope should not be in being validated more or communicating at a greater frequency, but in the powerful of love of Jesus Christ.  The resurrection of Jesus gives us the ability to love our imperfect spouse.  The resurrection of Jesus allows us to forgive the hurts from our spouse.  The resurrection of Jesus allows us to understand that, like us, our spouse is being sanctified and we are to love them in patience, grace, kindness and compassion.

            Jesus makes all things new and can certainly make your marriage new.

In Him

Christian Bringolf MA LMHC