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You’re Married to a Sinner and you can’t fix them.
The first question I ask whenever starting marriage counseling is, “What brings you into my office today?” Inevitably, one spouse will say, “We don’t communicate well.” The couple has determined that the main problem is bad communication. The problem with this conclusion is that it’s saying a symptom of the problem is the main problem. An example would be talking to a friend who’s sick and asking them why they’re sick and they reply with, “I’m sick because I have a cough.” Anyone who’s ever been sick knows that a cough is often a symptom of the illness not the cause. Similar in marriage, poor communication is a symptom not the main problem. “
Husbands and Wives
Establishing who is God in your individual and marital life can make a big difference in healing for a fractured marriage. God calls us to worship him with our whole being (Deut 6:4-6), how does that impact the way we deal with marital dysfunction and healing. Can healing happen when we worship God first in our lives? These are questions that are important for every christian individual, especially christian marriages to seek and ask.
Active Forgiveness
“Forgiveness is weakness. This unfortunately is the more dominant understanding of how our culture looks at forgiveness. This is not a virtue that is seen as an admirable or imitable quality. Many people subscribe to the idea that if someone hurts you, you get revenge on them.“
Make No Room for Bitterness in Your Marriage
Bitterness is a relational cancer in your marriage. Our response to bitterness starts with where our relationship with Christ is. Only Christ can eradicate our bitterness.